Braden Howe

I was thinking that maybe today was a good day to get on and finish my story about my Amazing Brother-in-Law Braden Howe. Braden was my husband older brother and when he was 13 he got hit by car, the accident left him a Quadriplegic which means he was not able to move from the neck down.I knew Braden for about 3 years before he passes away, he was the sweetest man I ever met (other then my husband)

Breon and I got married on May 13, 2011 Braden passed way on May 12, 2011. 

OK here is my story, on May 11,  I was just chilling at our apartment cleaning and getting things hung on the wall when, when I receive a phone call from Breon that Braden was heading to the hospital... I had no idea what was going on, so since I wasn't officially part of the family yet I wasn't sure if I should head to the hospital... So I told Breon to call me when he got there and tell me what is going on. About 20-30 minutes later he gives me a call and tells me I should come to the hospital. When I got there I met them in the E.R room with Braden. I kept thinking to myself there is no way this could be happening right now, two days beofre the wedding really?! This had to happen! Once they got Braden stable they took him to the ICU and Breon walked out with me to tell me what had happened. Braden was outside sitting in the sun and getting some fresh air. 

I am trying to figure out what is the best way to describe the what happened..

He had a breathing tube in his throat that has an alarm that beeps if something is wrong, Like to much back pressure or something... I'll be honest I didn't really get to know to much about his equipment and what I do remember I don't know if I am making it up or not. All I know is that he had what Christopher Reeves had. So anyways he was out side and we believe that his breathing tube popped off and was resting on the chest so it was giving the machine enough back pressure that it didn't alarm. When my mother-in-law went to check on him we was hunched over. She called 911 and they rushed him to the hospital, and thats when breon called me to come on up the hospital. 

Braden was in the E.R for awhile and then they took him to the ICU and We waited in the lobby for any new updates. We were there for hours and not much changed, so they did an MRI to see if there was any brain damage after a few hours of waiting I had to head home because I had so many last minute things to do before the wedding, and I needed as much beauty sleep as could get. 

The next morning I was a MESS!!! I didn't sleep, I was worried all night about Braden about breon and what this would do to him if Braden died, I couldn't think that day. I was trying to stay positive but it was not working, I layed in bed all day! Then I got a call from Breon that the results of the MRI were bad. And they there going take him off life support today.. oh man I cant even tell you what was going on in my head, I broke. I had tried to be strong for breon and for myself but once he told me that they were going to take him off life support I couldn't be strong anymore. My mom came down and tried to comfort me but as soon as I heard what was happening I decided I didn't want to get married tomorrow I wanted to get through this mess and then try for a happily ever after.. 

I had my dad drive me up the hospital because I didn't want to drive myself , we we get there and the whole family is there already.  We are all just sitting around waiting for them to tell us they are ready and time for our good-byes. Once they were ready we went in and said our good byes.. He was such an amazing guy and he was so strong in the church he was a great example to me and he was always in a good mood. I will never never forget what a great man he was! 

So we ended up getting married the next day and It was a great day! An AMAZING DAY! But every now and then I wish I could change everything. 

We went on our honeymoon got back Monday, viewing on Tuesday and then funeral on Wednesday. So we were pretty busy and our honeymoon wish would have lasted forever so that we didn't have to go through any of this.

I hope that this blog makes sense and easy to understand, my mind was filled with all this stuff and I feel that I just blurted it out. I hope that it makes sense!